“Men are more motivated and empowered when they feel needed… Women are more motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.” ~John Gray
John Gray’s bestseller Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is a classic guide to deal with the opposite sex. A book to solve every problem between men and women.
Since the beginning of civilization, there are jokes about women being too complicated to understand and men being too dumb to get trusted in a relationship.
Everyone knows that men and women are different about life, but what are the differences? Dr. Gray answers it in a to the point and easy to digest way. Every chapter gradually feeds us small chunks of our opposite sex’s viewpoint.
I learned about John Gray from his TED video. His presentation seemed so informative, meaningful, and enjoyable that my curiosity led me to read his book.
“Without a clear awareness of our differences, we do not take time to understand and respect each other. We become demanding, resentful, judgmental and intolerant.”
At the beginning of the book he builds a fiction that how all men and women lived on separate planets, Mars and Venus, and discovered each other’s presence, got attracted and decided to make the Earth common place to live. The fairy-tell guides the reader to understand the difference throughout the book because it’s easier to believe the differences because the opposite is an alien.
Both men and women have their own ways to express things, their timing is different, they deal with life in a different way, and they have their own key points to feel loved.
For example, he illustrates how a man takes a woman’s feeling literally and tries to correct her because he thinks she is asking for solutions where all she want is understanding. And on the other hand when she tries to correct him and tells him what to do, he does not feels admired. Both are trying to help each other but the meaning of the actions makes them feel unloved.
“Martian and Venusian languages had same words, but the way they were used gave different meanings.”
This book is all about understanding own instincts Applying the concepts of this book does not make us fake. It teaches us to raise our standards, be more understanding and be a better partner in a relationship.
At the time where the number of divorces, random break-ups, and confusing resentments is increasing every year, educating yourself by learning basic relationship psychology is a must for maintaining a relationship life long. That’s when the Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by Dr. John Gray becomes a must read for you.
In the end, I would say that it’s not that hard to understand the opposite sex. At least that’s what this book taught me. We can understand anything or anyone if we try to.