“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” Dale Carnegie.
In the self-help book industry, there are no other books that can be compared with Dale Carnegie’s ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’.
The book not only has the most accurate title ever but also is the most effective handbook for winning and influencing people.
How to win friends and influence people was first published on 1936 (80 years ago) and still remains the best among its own kinds by being sold more than 16 million of copies. It is considered one of the self-help classics ever written.
“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of our will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not … … Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.”
This was one of the very first books on self-help I read. From the title it may sound like a book for introverted people who have trouble making conversation with others but it actually is a must read for anyone who wants to excel in any area of life. Because no matter what you want to achieve you’ll always need to understand what
The book is dived into four parts and total of 30 chapters. Each chapter is focused on describing a single principal of dealing with people in an easily digestible form with lots of examples and quotations.
The first part holds the techniques to handle people which include the rules like not to criticize people and giving honest appreciation and many more things. The second part teaches ways to make people like you with focused principals like learning to smile, listen and making the other person feel important. The last two parts focus on influencing and leading people. As a complete package of guided wisdom of understanding people, this book definitely helps to travel the road called relationships easier.
“The life of many a person could probably be changed if someone would make him feel important.”
5 Best things about this book:
- It is effective.
- It is easy to understand.
- It’s is full of awesome quotations by many successful people.
- It will shift your paradigm for sure.
- It is a handy and step by step guide to success in personal and professional relationships.
Tips for reading this book:
To get the best out of this book don’t read it like a fairy tell. In the beginning, the book has nine suggestions to get the most out this book, all of them are important, but I am listing 3 of them that I personally found effective.
- Read each chapter twice before starting the next chapter. The first time will give you the outline of the topic and the next time will fill up the gaps.
- Take small blank cards and write down the principals from each part. Reviewing these cards often will help you to keep the techniques memorized without reading the complete book again. (Reading this book once each year is a great choice, this book has infinite things to teach)
- Adopt the habits by setting rules to follow the principals. List the rules and set a penalty value if they are broken. In this way, you’ll not only be more accountable but also learn faster.
How to win friends and influence people is like a user manual of social life for a leader. It has all the principles every person need to have any kind of sound relationships.