“Don’t think too much
Whatever happens, happens.”
The only thing that makes humans superior to the other living things on earth is the ability to think. By thinking I mean the process of thoughts we go through before taking a conscious action. While thinking we may imagine, remember or ask questions to ourselves based on beliefs and past experiences. Ultimately thinking makes our character grow by adopting and changing beliefs because everything we do consciously or unconsciously is a result of thinking.
Thinking is a great way to start doing anything as long as thinking is not the only thing you do. But sometimes many of us get trapped by a loop or chains of continuous thoughts, aka Overthinking.
Overthinking is the cluttering of mind. When you think more than enough for something you start to over-analyze it; you will find all the positive and negative sides of it soon and you will focus on negatives because you’ll have doubts; “Where ever we focus, we feel” – focusing on negatives will make you worried which eventually turn into fear.
A person overthinks when he is worried about something and he gets worried when he is overthinking; both of these come with a “buy one get another one for free” choice. To avoid worrying you have to stop overthinking.
Signs that you are overthinking:
- You are having bad days. All the things happening around you feels like negative and making you depressed over life.
- You are not living in the present. Your peers find you distracted while having a conversation. You think too much about past incidents or worry too much about the future.
- You carry thoughts in your bed. You sleep late because the thoughts keep coming one after another and you are trapped in the quicksand.
Consequences of Overthinking:
- Distraction.When thoughts do not serve you to live in the present moment focusing on whatever you are doing, they are the distraction for your productive and effective life.
- Wasted time. When you are distracted by your thoughts you are also wasting time. The worst part of this is that you won’t realize the wastage while you are daydreaming.
- Depression.The more time you waste the more pressure you’ll feel. Distracting thoughts can make a 10-minute task taking 1 hour and at the end of the day, you’ll have some unfinished tasks. Based on the importance of the unfinished or undone tasks you may feel guilty which will create more negative thoughts leading you towards depression.
Tips to declutter mind:
- Accept the cluttering. If you have signs of a cluttered mind the first thing you have to do is to accept it. By accepting you have the problem you don’t have to overthink or doubt on yourself. And also accepting will make you more patient and understanding and decluttering will be easy and fun.
- Environment and surroundings. A cluttered environment creates cluttered mind. So, make sure to declutter your physical life first to have a clearer mind.
- Foods for the mind. Go on a mental diet. Same as physical diet add sources that influence good thoughts and avoid negative ones. Identify the sources that produce negative thoughts, i.e. newspaper (avoid negative news), bad books, music, and movies. Make sure to be more socialized and also try to adopt a creative hobby to feed your mind healthy.
- Physical motion. Thoughts are basically emotions and emotion is energy in motion. A moving energetic body does not generate negative thoughts. Don’t be lazy give your 100% energy every day so that you can appreciate the day with a high-quality good night sleep. Exercise, play or even walk, no matter what you do make sure your body is not getting a depressed gesture.
- Scheduling life. Plan your daily life. Follow a routine. Do every task under certain time limits. Take an hour from the day and dedicate it towards thinking. Think about things that give you pleasure and empowerment, ask questions to yourself and morning questions, and analyze the lessons you have learned or even meditate to understand your mind during the thinking time.
- Being proactive. Be aware what you are doing. Use stopwatch and time to be single focused on certain action until the time is over. Follow a routine and focus on the actions in the planned time during the day; Satisfy your thinking process only when it’s “thinking time”.
- Expressing thoughts. The best way to understand your mind is to put out what’s on there. Share your thoughts with others, write them down in your journal or do the way you find best for expressing the clutter.
Studies show that we think 20K+ thoughts each day on average and 90% of them are old ones. 20,000 plus thoughts within 24 hours? That’s 13+ different thoughts each minute (if we include 8 hours of sleep in the math). Is not that distracting?
We all know that we can’t control our thoughts, but we can discipline them. We need to keep in mind that our mind and body controls each other. When we can’t control our mental health we always can do some physical gesture changes to change the direction of our thoughts. All we need is some patience and understanding how your mind works.